MM172001 tagged me this time. And actually, after reading some responses, I am really eager to do this!
I’ll refrain from tagging anyone. I am almost positive that this has made enough circles!
Onto the questions!
1. If you could go back and tell your younger self something. What age would you go back to and what would you say?
I have often thought this over, although I mindfully refrain from asking the “Coulda, woulda, shoulda”s. Had I been asked this question a year ago, I would have gone back to eighteen.
At eighteen, I had already been diagnosed and was being treated for MDD. At the same time, I was already beginning my spiral into alcoholism. Those are two pressing factors. The other is the matter of my husband.
There was a brief moment in time where my husband and I were both single. We shared a moment and a sofa. I mentioned our history in my post Possibility and Ascension.
I would have advised myself to tell my doctor the truth about everything. I wasn’t fine. I had lost faith in her, because I wasn’t well after three years of treatment. And I would have suggested bipolar disorder.
I would have told myself to stop with the alcohol. It would almost be my destruction if I continued on that route.
And most of all, I would tell myself that C.S. and I belonged to each other.
But, I’ve thought it over. I realized that everything happens in it’s own time for a good reason. Though I would never wish the trials and tribulation I went through upon myself, I quite possibly needed them to get here. My husband and I were meant to go through our awful relationships before we could be together. Probably so that we could appreciate each other. We needed to go through our respective hells so that we could grow toward each other.
If it weren’t for everything, I wouldn’t be me. And as much as I don’t like myself sometimes, I actually do. Sounds contradictory, but I like my life. I love my husband and my son. I wouldn’t want to change it. So, why would I want to go back and take a chance on ruining it all?
2. Favorite food.
Largely depends. I find myself getting obsessed about a food. Lately, it’s been egg white omelets. Yum!
3. When did you start your blog? Why? And has the purpose changed as time has?
June 19, 2011. I often reference this post, because it was a big step for me. It was my step into the public about my disorder. Up until that time, I had really tried to tuck it into a corner and deal with in very privately. I realized that I couldn’t. Had I not written that post on June 19, 2011, I may not be here today. It was the replacement for a potential suicide attempt.
The purpose is still largely the same. It began as my internal monologues (and sometimes dialogues!) as my voice in this world. That largely stands. Except, the focus has shifted into less of a diary to chronicle my life, and more of a narrative as an outlet for my thoughts, ideas, and experiences.
It has expanded to include mental health advocacy, developing a mental health community, and a sounding board for others. It will continue to develop in these areas, as I am now moving toward more mental health advocacy and publications.
4. What do you think your best character trait is?
Hands down, versatility. I am extraordinarily flexible. I can take on multiple roles, and handle a variety of situations in different settings. I didn’t say I always do it well. But, I can do it.
5. What do you think is your worst character trait?
Volatility. I have come to realize and accept that I have a nasty temper. Unfortunately, I have not yet figured out how to temper myself.
6. What is the last thing you read?
Book or blog? I just started reading “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo”. As blogs go, I just finished reading the post that prompted this one.
I don’t have heroes. Heroes are often people we turn into characters that we idealize. I am careful not to idealize any person or situation. It often leads to disillusionment. I am not good at handling that.
8. How much time do you spend on the internet in an average day?
About two hours or so. Usually in the morning before anyone wakes up. It’s the only time I can get the computer to myself.
Unless you count the time that I’m on my Blackberry. Then, we’re looking at a total of about three to five.
9. If you had to chose only one social issue to fight for what would it be?
Human rights. It covers just about everything I’d be fighting for. Mental health advocacy, creating less of a socioeconomic gap, discrimination, and all kinds of things. Human rights is extremely important.
10. If you could live anywhere, where and why?
Right here, in Pittsburgh. Anyone who even talks to me about Pittsburgh will get an earful. I love this city. I have been a lot of other places in my life, and none have compared to this city.
Everything you could ever want in a city is here. It’s not overly populated, only having about 300K that live within city limits and 1.5mil that live in the county surrounding. This city and surrounding suburbs covers every mode of living a person can want. Currently, I’m suburban / urban. My husband would like us to move to a place that is more suburban / rural. All within 10 miles of city limits.
We have the best sports teams, if you’re into that. We boast the best healthcare in the US. We have a wealth of universities to study at. CMU is among the leading in technology. Crime is not too bad. There are very few areas that I would consider “unsafe”. Our cultural district is amazing, ranging from community theater to Broadway musicals. We have an entire district dedicated to nightlife. And another district that is like a farmer’s market every morning!
We even have our own local dialect and slang. Pittsburghese!
Everything you need is pretty accessible. It can be both a driving city and a walking city. I prefer walking. Jaywalking is a sport. (For me, anyway). It’s just an incredible place to be.
11. If you could chose to have the power to read people’s minds/know their thoughts, would you choose to? It’s not something you could turn on or off, you have it or don’t. Why?
This is another one of those questions, just like number 1, that if you had reached me in years prior, I would have given you an entirely different answer.
When I was young, I used to think of Gene Grey from X-Men. I thought telepathy / telekinesis was an incredible ability. It was something that I thought would give me such potential, and such an edge.
But, I’ll tell you this. Since the onset of my symptoms associated with bipolar disorder, I have changed my mind. Bipolar disorder make my ability as an empath so much more pronounced. I feel what other people feel. Sometimes, so much that it bleeds into my own emotions and I cannot distinguish between the two. And at times, it drives me mad.
If that’s how I feel, just being able to sense emotional vibrations, then I would refuse telepathy. I know there is an abundance of opportunity afforded with that. However, I don’t think I could handle all of those voices in my head. I have enough, thank you.
- A Proper Name (asthependulumswings.wordpress.com)
- Blog for Mental Health 2012 (acanvasoftheminds.wordpress.com)
- Blog for Mental Health 2012 (gypsy116.wordpress.com)
- Call to Reform Mental Health Treatment Law, California, U.S.A. (jeanettebartha.wordpress.com)
- Well-Balanced Mental Health Food Diet (living4bliss.wordpress.com)
- Ban Together: Blog for Mental Health 2012 (quitthecure.com)
- Survival Tactics: Bipolar Disorder Edition (acanvasoftheminds.wordpress.com)
- A Spectrum of Depression (asthependulumswings.wordpress.com)
- The Trickery of Remission (asthependulumswings.wordpress.com)
- Bipolar Disorder (sanitydigest.wordpress.com)